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Doing Relationships Right


Nov 9, 2021

Is your spouse a financial bully? 

 

Does your partner require you to tell them about all of your purchases? 

 

Do they ever threaten to cut you off from the money or discourage you from furthering your career or making more money? 

 

Do they make poor decisions involving your credit, causing harm to your credit score? 

 

If you answered YES to any of the above, then this episode is a MUST listen. I've brought back one of my favorite attorneys/ CDFA, Lisa Zeiderman, to give us her insight on the topic of financial bullies and how to spot them. 

 

Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. A Matrimonial Attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters for high net worth individuals. She also authors a well-read blog on Psychology Today called "Legal Matters," covering the intersection of mental health, divorce, and child custody. Named a 2019 10 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, Ms. Zeiderman is also a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children.

 

To find more on Lisa and to hire her in the NY area: LISA ZEIDERMAN WEBSITE

 

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Show notes:

[1:44] Who is Lisa Zeiderman?

[2:29] What is financial bullying, and how does it start?

[9:58] What can you do when it starts happening?

[12:18] Reassessing your relationship with your spouse

[15:29] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[16:33] It goes on undetected

[18:33] Prenups and postnups

[21:47] Savvy Ladies and the importance of financial literacy

[24:47] Asking for a prenup

[26:45] Financial abuse is still abuse

[29:16] Red flag: When account statements do not come home

[29:53] Red flag: When you’re unable to access accounts, and there are large amount transfers