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Doing Relationships Right

Oct 12, 2021

Do you think your spouse is cheating? 

Are you online dating and think you've found the "one" but now they seem a bit "shady"? 

Ever hear of "Romance Scams" and women being taken advantage of on dating apps? 

Well, this episode of Doing Relationships Right is answering all of the above and MORE! My guest is Jan Barefoot, the owner of Barefoot Investigations- A private Investigator. 

Jan Barefoot established the Barefoot Professional Investigations legacy 35 years ago. A Charlotte native, Jan combined the experience she gained with family law titans James, McElroy & Diehl, P.A. along with her King’s Business College degree to found Charlotte’s premier private detective agency.

Jan’s team of licensed investigators has achieved the reputation as one of the most ethical investigative firms in the Southeast. Relentless attention to detail and ability to tackle some of the toughest cases have earned Jan the respect and admiration of the top law firms, corporations, and thousands of individuals in the Southeast.

Like Jan, her husband Brian is also a highly regarded business owner. Brian founded Delta |v| Forensic Engineering 17 years ago and focuses solely on accident reconstruction work. Both of their daughters graduated from Providence Day School and currently attend the Florida Institute of Technology in Melbourne, Florida, and Ithaca College in Ithaca, New York. As a two-time breast cancer survivor, Jan has been actively involved in the Susan G. Komen Charlotte Race for the Cure for 20 years, is a member of the Women’s Impact Fund, and has attended Forest Hill Church for 22 years.


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Show notes:

[1:45] Let's learn more about Jan, who she is, and what she does 

[3:53] How to become a Private Investigator?

[5:53] On dating safely — how to

[8:56] The limitations of Google's background check services, and some easy things you can check on your own

[12:25] Background checks need more digging and why it's a common request

[15:56] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (

[17:07] The red flags for married couples

[20:13] Jan's background check rates and services

[22:42] Be extra careful, especially when you're very vulnerable

[26:04] Final nugget of wisdom

[28:01] One good reason why others don't want to give their last name

[29:32] Reporting people on dating apps: is it necessary?